Among the many group projects, class assignments, career counseling sessions and midterms, one theme seems to have emerged - Network your brains out.
Now, I consider myself to be an extrovert who can pretty much talk to anyone but nothing, NOTHING, makes me freeze up more than when I’m supposed to network. I guess I’m afraid because to me, networking because it feels fake. Its as if I have a hidden motivation to talking to a person rather than having a genuine interest in talking to them.
Luckily I have a friend who is a networking queen. She has talked with tons of business people since entering the “real-world” 4 years ago and has amassed a network of some pretty interesting, not to mention high-ranking, business professionals.
So, when I told her about my fear she said “Ryan, relax…The key to networking is to be yourself. Be personable and most of all, be able to make the person you are speaking with feel valued. Networking is not about asking for a favor, its about having a general conversation. Just be yourself and talk to people all of the time.”
Not going to lie, at first I laughed at this advice. But as I started to really think about what she said, I began to realize how right she was. Going to a networking event to do anything other than conversing is not networking. Networking, at its core, is purely about meeting people and making connections. When was the last time you met a new friend and immediately asked them for a favor. Its weird and pretty stupid, right? So why should networking be any different.
I’ve not quite fully overcome my networking fear, but I have become more confident in speaking with other business people. Just be yourself, make them feel valued, and smile. You never know what may happen with that connection later on.
Here are a few more tips for networking that I found helpful.